BEING A MOTHER
After
17 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out
to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this
other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you."
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who
has been alone for 20 years, but the demands of my work and my two
boys had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.
That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
"What's wrong, aren't you well," she asked?
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call
or a surprise invitation is a "'I thought it would be pleasant
to spend some time with you,"' I responded. "Just the two
of us."
She
thought about it for a moment, and then said, " I would like
that very much."
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit
nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed
to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door. She had curled
her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate
her last birthday on November 19th.
She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "I
told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were
impressed," she said, as she got into that new white van. "They
can't wait to hear about our date."
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice
and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After
we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large
print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom
sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It
was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she
said.
"Then
it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.
During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation- -nothing extraordinary
but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so
much that we missed the movie.
As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with
you again, but only if you let me
invite you." I agreed.
"How
was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home.
"Very
nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.
A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened
so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.
Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant
receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note
said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could
be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and
the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant
for me. I love you, son."
At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I
LOVE YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing
in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they
deserve, because these things cannot be put off till 'some other time."
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